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		<title>Are You a Confident Writer?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 01 May 2012 11:22:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kate Marillat</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[On the page you need to be convincing, confident and propel the reader along with your words, but how about reading your work at an open mic night? Does your heart do a tap dance when you think about getting feedback on your opening chapter? Do you blush, stammer or stare at the floor when the literary spotlight is upon you? Many artistic folk struggle with their self-belief or should we say, their limiting beliefs that plague them throughout their career. Even the literary peacocks who don big hats, grow French moustaches, paint their faces ghostly white and simply adore being on stage can also suffer from a confidence deficit when it comes to their work. It doesn’t matter whether you are a peacock or like the majority of writers, a shy retiring type, but it is vitally important that you have true belief in your writing. Ever heard the adage, ‘What you put out there is what you get back?’ If you’re not confident about your work, then how can your readers, agents or publishers believe in it? Anyone who knows even a tiny bit about the Law of Attraction will understand that it’s important to take note of the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Fancy A Cup Of Tea?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 17 Mar 2012 16:37:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kate Marillat</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[All writers need tea breaks. We need to sit, ponder, rest our brains and let new ideas flow. During this creative recess, there is surely nothing more inspiring than drinking your favourite beverage from a motivating writerly mug. We&#8217;ve had some Be The Writer You Dream Of Being mugs specially made just for that purpose and have been sipping tea from them while we brainstorm ideas for our new audio workbook. And we realise, that we need your help. We want to ensure that we truly address all the problems that writers face. It&#8217;s different for everyone and we need your input. We want to know what stops you writing. If you could spare two minutes to answer this quick, multiple choice survey, you will automatically entered into a draw to win one of our exclusive mugs. There are just three questions, and honestly it will only take two minutes. And by telling us your writing issues, you never know we just might be able to help. Click on the following link for the Survey: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/MVWL8HK We will draw the lucky winner on Friday 6th April and will notify you by email. Thanks for your time and happy writing &#160;]]></description>
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		<title>The &#8216;Should&#8217; Monster</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 19 Jan 2012 21:27:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kate Marillat</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Picture this: it’s a bright July morning, and you have the day to yourself. Your perfect writing spot is waiting for pages to be filled. It’s your time. But instead of enjoying this fact, you hear a little monster tell you that you ‘should’ get to the desk, hear him growl at you over your morning coffee; chiding you for taking so long, that you ‘should’ get going; that you are wasting precious writing time. He hurries you to your desk, berating the laptop for taking its time to load up and then when the cursor is flashing, your mind is suddenly blank. And then he starts up again, listing all the projects that you ‘should’ be concentrating on, all the thousands of pages you have to write or interesting blog posts you’ve got ideas for. This is the ‘should’ monster who, if given attention, or fed with negativity can easily drown out the softly voiced creative flow and stop writers writing. But what can you do about this ‘should’ monster? Here are a few tips and tricks that have helped me: Set a specific (and realistic) time that I will get to the desk and be ready to write. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>When Your Dreams Become A Burden</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Sep 2011 12:14:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ros Barber</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[* Did you dream of being a famous and successful writer, when you were little? * By the time you reached the age you are now, how famous and successful did you imagine yourself being? * And when you really think about that last question, does it provoke an emotional or physical reaction? Tension in your body,  a sick feeling, a tightness in your throat, tears? Early talent &#8211; and the praise and encouragement that comes with it &#8211; can be a double-edged sword. At eight or nine years old, even as a teenager, it is easy for a gifted story writer to imagine they might be a genius on the brink of being discovered.  As teachers or parents heap praise on those early achievements,  it is natural to fantasize how it will be, in the future, when they will be (it is surely inevitable) a respected and prize-winning author, a household name, amply supported by their royalties. Then eighteen arrives. A Born Writer steps across the threshold of adulthood and suddenly finds themself in a pool of aspiring writers of all ages, many with experience, wisdom, university educations, years of reading and writing practice behind them, all vying for [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Revolution Will Be Emotional</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 15 Jul 2011 11:10:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ros Barber</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I’ve touched on gender issues in writing before but here’s a slightly different take on the same subject.  What if the gender imbalance at the top of the literary tree – the higher proportions of men in the high-kudos publications and on the prize shortlists – is because women are more emotional? A prickly subject. Even as I type it I can envisage women across this glorious web of electrons getting ready to beat me down with a rolling pin (and I use the domestic imagery not to bait anyone further, but in an attempt to soften the ground with a little ironical humour).  Sisters, I’m with you.  Nothing is more infuriating than to have one’s righteous position undermined by a reference to one’s biology.  To have one’s justifiable emotional outburst greeted, for example, with “Time of the Month?” But hear me out.  Our culture inculcates men, from an early age, with the idea that emotions are a sign (or cause) of weakness and vulnerability, and most men learn to shut down a majority of their emotions with considerable effectiveness.  Women, on the other hand, are generally more emotional creatures: we share our feelings with our friends; we indulge them, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Explanation for Absence</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 27 Jun 2011 13:16:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ros Barber</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[No, we don’t have a sick note from our mothers.  But in case you were enjoying what we were up do, and hoping for a little more, a brief note about the silence. The immediate aftermath of my much-desired book deal – coupled not long after with the awarding of my doctorate – has been to take my foot off the gas.  I’ve been working long and relentless hours for four years now, and it was time to take stock, re-orient myself, and award myself a little time off for good behaviour. Kate, while usefully keeping us breathing through our tweet stream, was busy as a busy thing aiming to complete two significant creative projects at once – the novel, and the baby.  I can report that the baby was safely and joyfully delivered in a miraculously pain-free (and drug-free) homebirth thanks to the wonders of Hypnobirthing and EFT.  The close-to-done novel is awaiting the return of creative juices from womb to brain (which any writing women who have experienced pregnancy will appreciate). Our interest in sharing with you some of the most powerful things you can do to tweak your writer’s psyche in a higher and more successful gear [...]]]></description>
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		<title>EFT for Writers</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 29 Mar 2011 12:09:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ros Barber</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[So what exactly is EFT?  Why do we think its a brilliant tool for writers and people who want to be writers? Let&#8217;s start with the basics. EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique.  It&#8217;s sometimes called &#8216;tapping&#8217; and is sometimes described as &#8220;acupuncture without needles&#8221;.   From a personal familiarity with acupuncture, however, I would say it is massively more powerful in its effects &#8211; and the great bonus is, no needles or trained practitioners are required.   Of course you might want to use an EFT practitioner for really sticky problems, but it&#8217;s very simple to do and anyone can learn it.  When you first start, you won&#8217;t have the success rate of experienced tappers &#8211; but like anything, the more of it you do, that better at it you&#8217;ll get &#8211; especially if you read about it, watch tapping videos, join a local EFT group.  There are plenty of free and cheap resources on the net if you scout around. EFT is the fastest growing and most successful developments in the field of  &#8217;Energy Psychology&#8217;.  On the verge of going mainstream, it is now used by hundreds of thousands of people worldwide to overcome blocks to success.  These [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Twitter for Writers &#8211; Friend or Foe?</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 10 Mar 2011 11:39:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kate Marillat</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Writing Tips and Tricks]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[time management]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[As writers we know how hard it can be to stay in the writing flow and not succumb to the eighth deadly sin,  procrastination. But with people now hanging out on Facebook and Twitter for up to six hours a day and the average user creating 90 pieces of content a month, it can be hard to stay in the writing zone and out of tempting hyperspace. We are repeatedly told the importance of social networking in preparation for a publishing contract. Publishers want as much free publicity as possible and having followers on your blog, Facebook profile and Twitter account shows that you are able to interact online and already have an (albeit small) audience ready to read your work. Many serious writers know this already.  Margaret Atwood has almost 134,000 followers and the Brazilian author Paul Coelho, has 1,157,000. But these are two big household names and for the rest of us trying to get published, get noticed or simply put our writing out there isn’t social networking simply a distraction from writing? It’s so easy to follow a link and end up reading an interesting article from The Guardian about the new top twelve British novelists.   (That was me [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Fearless Readings For Writers &#8211; Before and After</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Mar 2011 17:33:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ros Barber</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A couple of weeks ago, Kate and I ran the &#8216;Fearless Readings for Writers&#8217; live module for the first time.    It&#8217;s very important to us that we deliver measurable results,  so on arrival, each participant was given a questionnaire  that included ten negative and ten positive statements (specific to reading their work in public) and asked to rate how true each one was for them on a scale of 1 to 5. Two and a half hours later, we gave them an identical questionnaire and asked them to rate each statement again. Today, I finally had time to collate and average results, so we can see the overall picture. Negative Feelings There were ten negative statements: I hate reading my work in public I’m worried what the audience with think of me/my writing I’m afraid the audience will feel sorry for me I’m scared my writing will turn out to be rubbish when I’m reading I’m scared the audience won’t clap I’m afraid I won’t get recognition for my efforts I’m worried I’ll forget what I’m going to say I’m afraid I will stutter/stammer/blush/shake/get a nervous rash I had bad reading/performance experiences at school or elsewhere Even the thought [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Perfect Place to Write</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Feb 2011 09:44:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kate Marillat</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[For as long as I can remember I’ve had a love affair with Paris. Maybe it’s the streamlined trees, the stylish waifs cycling in heels, or the crunch of a baguette topped with warm camembert…with the abundance of Parisian clichés it’s easy to romanticise the City of Light. My most significant trip to Paris was taken three years ago when I took a sabbatical from my corporate job. Paris 2008 I hadn’t taken my writing seriously since I studied English at university but it I wanted to write a book, and thought that Paris was the only place I could do it. Off I went with a huge suitcase, and a new red laptop. When I passed through the channel tunnel, I let myself cry a tear of dramatic joy &#8211; I was going to live and write in Paris. When I arrived at the mixed sex hostel and the guy in the bunk above rocked the bed to his own rhythm, I was not so enthralled and quickly moved into a 22m apartment in the third arrondissement where the bed folded neatly into the wall. Over the next six months, I spent the weekdays writing with a target of [...]]]></description>
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